Theory of Relativity and Positivity
For those who endure seasons,
the routine goes,
that winter comes,
and the cold follows.
The days become short,
And white covers all,
You long for warmth,
yet cannot recall,
the feeling of the sun,
until suddenly it comes
light. heat. bright. so sweet.
Layers off, windows down, and its only 60.
Turn the clock forward.
Winter to spring,
spring to warmer
today is a scorcher.
Then a brisk night falls,
the next morning comes
and an autumn wind calls,
suddenly your t-shirt feels small
And you become appalled,
How shady, how shifty
How chilly, how quickly,
Jacket on, windows up, and its only 60.
It’s the simple yet powerful concept of relativity. Nothing really changed besides the frame of reference. Within the reference point of the cold winter, a little warmth is felt more strongly and vice versa.
To be true to the original theory of relativity, all variables must remain the same; therefore scientifically speaking I have to point out that humidity has a slight effect on how a given temperature feels on our skin in different seasons. However, the main faculty that changes our perception of equal temperatures is the mind.
The mind is very powerful yet easily influenced. What causes the mind to be influenced by relativity?
The mind has two unique capabilities: regeneration and imagination.
- The regenerative power can take us back to that specific apprehensive exciting feeling we had as we packed our backpacks for the first day of grade school or to the taste and smell of basil, tomatoes, and garlic from a freshly baked pizza. It is the power to recreate.
- The imaginative power can help us visualize what it would feel like to fly like a bird high in the sky or see ourselves 5 years in the future fulfilling our dreams. It is the power to create.
Although the mind has the capability of drawing from any past experience or even imagining a foreign experience, it most readily is influenced by the most recent and desirable past. So while we should know that 60 degrees is not that cold in the summer for the body based on its experience with the same temperature in the winter, we feel cold because the mind is drawing from its most recent reference of high temperatures.
This happens in a much more substantial way beyond just our perception of weather and we aren’t even aware of it usually. Throughout life we find things that bother us, that anger us, that sadden us because our mind naturally looks to the most recent frame of reference of comfort, the frame reference of when things were easiest, the frame of reference of what we desire at the moment. It’s hard to blame the mind because this choice of reference is deeply rooted in our modern day outlook: find the most efficient, easy path to happiness.
When technology fails us, we complain as if our life never existed without it.
When our schedule is disrupted, we curse the disturbance as if tomorrow won’t come.
When we don’t do as well as we expect, we act as if we have never risen from failure.
When something is lost, we forget all that we do still have.
The key to using this theory of positivity and relativity is to STEP BACK and consciously change your frame of reference. If you force your mind to see the frame of reference of a time when you had to adjust or overcome obstacles or help someone close to you through hardship, it is much easier to count your blessings. This does not mean that you have to think of the hard times always, but when you make it a habit to step back during times of negativity and count your blessings you slowly broaden your mind’s horizon and increase the range of references from which it pulls its next reaction. Eventually it becomes easier and easier to think with a more broader, positive viewpoint on life and its obstacles.
An example where we have all experienced the power of relativity is when we look up into space and realize the fact that there are millions of stars like our sun out there, millions of solar systems around those stars, millions of galaxies encompassing the solar systems. Millions. Hundreds of Millions. And because our planet is oh so perfectly placed in space with the perfect chemical composition here we are living, breathing, enjoying life… yet at the same time we are fretfully running around worrying about our problems. Little specks of invisible dust in comparison to the Universe yet how caught up we get without realizing how fortunate we are to be in existence.
Personally for me, this is my introductory blog post because it is a look into the main idea of this whole blog: Step-Back. Take a Second. Become Aware. Change your Outlook and become the most positive, most loving, most thoughtful, most successful, best human you can be. My theory for positivity and relativity is obviously not something I invented, but it is something that came to me after handling an extremely tough obstacle I had in my life. We have certain moments in life, where things aren’t easy and we have to endure pain, and at these times our frame of reference allows us to appreciate the simple timeless things in life. But over time I saw myself forgetting that reference point; within a year later I started to find myself worrying and complaining about small things in life and forgetting the things I had appreciated during that hard time. And it’s natural to do this of course and complaining is second-nature because you are never going to like everything life throws at you, but staying positive and keeping the right perspective can happen more readily if we remember this idea of positivity and relativity.